Sunday, 17 March 2013

How to enjoy Anal Sex

Seeing many people say "I like it but I have to be in the mood for it" has really motivated me to share what I know. Anal sex is as normal to me as vaginal sex. I can't imagine life without it. I'd like to teach you how it can be this pleasant and easy for you too!
_______________________________________________
In this guide
Lubrication
The pulse of death
Teasing the entrance
Tension and Tightening
It don't feel right?
Let's talk Shit
Ass to mouth?
My orgasms hurt!
The morning after the night before
Anal long term
_______________________________________________

Lubrication
Vaginal juices are perfect lube for anal. But starting out it will benefit you to use something extra. I would recommend any lube they all work. However, avoid Tingle lubes. There's enough intense physical feeling as it is. Plenty of time for adding Tingle later.
_______________________________________________

The Pulse of Death
I have to tell you this early on but don't let it put you off. It's something that doesn't ever need to happen.

The entrance to the anus is very tight. The tight part is roughly 1½ inches deep. If you go in before it is fully relaxed you will get very painful pulsations that last for (max) 10 seconds. The area remains pretty tender to the touch for some minutes after. It is painful enough that you won't be able to concentrate on ANY thing else until the pulsations pass. 

It very rarely happens, you only have to feel it once to put you off rushing yourself. You won't want to do it twice.
_______________________________________________

Teasing The Entrance 
The entrance to the anus (sphincter muscles) are designed to open from the inside. Which is why you need to relax the area first to avoid a painful reaction.

Circulate over the area with your lubricated fingers to arouse your partner. Slowly go deeper inside until you reach the anal passage. You can tell when you're in there, it's not as tight on your fingers.

This can be 10 minutes for someone new or just a few seconds for someone having anal regularly. You should be able to insert two fingers and widen your fingers. It's still tight, but now it has some give to it. Your partner is ready.
_______________________________________________

Best Beginner position
Spooning is ideal for first timers. If you bring your knees up so they're at a 90 degree angle, the anal entrance and passage are wider. 

You can hold on to your partners hip to control his speed and depth AND you can get off in a hurry if you need to. It is the most comfortable for you (the receiver) because in the early days much of the work on your part is focusing on NOT tensing up.
_______________________________________________

Tension and Tightening
As a beginner, you can unwittingly tense up while he's inside you. This will give you a sensation similar to the pulse of death. I believe this is why many people say "I have to be in the mood for it" 

Most (if not all) people new to anal have to really concentrate on remaining relaxed. The sphincter tightens at the slightest hint of danger, fear, uncertainty. If it tightens it hurts. 

Anal is a battle in the mind for the most part to start with. You keep calm and gradually new body memory starts to form. Your brain starts to get that this is all good and we can turn off the butt clamping. Allowing us to fully enjoy the pleasure and swing from those chandeliers! 

You have to work your body to adjust to anal. You have to be consistent with it too. If you dabble here and there without giving yourself time to train your bodies reaction, you will be one of those people saying "I love it but I have to be in the mood for it"

Once you've got through the delicate early stage, that's it! Once trained never forgotten. So it is worth working through it. I wish I'd have known that earlier on. The first 2 years of anal sex I was that person saying "in the right mood" Yep, even me.
_______________________________________________

It don't feel right?
This is true for everyone. When you first go in it just feels the same as having a dump. It literally feels like a dump going in and out. You'll be thinking why on EARTH do people rate anal so highly? They MUST be exaggerating!

The only thing to ever happen in your anal passage before now is having a dump. It takes a few tries for this association to be broken. Your body relies on previous experiences to know what is going on and how it should respond. 

You start to distinguish the difference between the two and then pleasure is all you will feel from anal sex. Once gone it never comes back. Even when you haven't had anal for a long time. :)
_______________________________________________

Let's talk Shit
The sphincter area collects tiny amounts fecal matter due to how tight it is. The anal passage is surprisingly clean. Use your fingers in the shower or a simple baby wipe/damp cloth to clean the sphincter area.

The other part where you're likely to experience it is at the top of the anal passage. Our bowel movements sit at the top until they're ready to come out. You can insert a finger inside you and feel if its' clear or not. You can still have anal sex, but if he goes deep enough you'll find yourselves in the shower before long!

You can tell if shit-has-happened most of the time because you feel a mild stinging sensation. 

In the early days of doing anal I just accepted there is a certain smell to it. It didn't occur to me to clean the sphincter, I saw nothing brown! (I was young) It's a faint smell and not the same as raw poop. It's not that intense or that gross frankly. You don't even need to experience that though, you can learn from my naivety! :)
_______________________________________________

Anal to Mouth?
Can you go from anal sex to vaginal or oral sex? Yes! I do it frequently. There's an instant odor if there is anything on him. I know it sounds hard to believe but you very rarely get any problems like that.

If fecal matter does get inside you it can be dangerous (so I've read). It irritates our skin as does urine for example. Given the years I've been doing this I must have had traces of fecal matter spread about. Not to the point of being able to smell anything THAT would be a red flag for me. Certainly I've never become ill from it.
_______________________________________________

My orgasms hurt!
This is true for most of us and only initially. You will have powerful orgasms anally. Immediately after an orgasm the sphincter tries to tighten up as it was before you started. You cannot get that penis out of you quick enough!

A good tip while its' like this is to slide out as you are having your orgasm. If you can get him out before the last beat you'll escape the discomfort.

This will go completely over time. It will go faster if you practice cumming on something slimmer. His fingers or a slim vibe for example. It is an unconscious reaction. It was some years before this stopped happening to me.  Or before I was consistent really. My sphincter and anal passage are as tight as before. 
_______________________________________________

The morning after the night before
The following day after anal, if you've been doing it for a prolonged time or are fairly new to it, the sphincter muscles don't go back to their tightly closed position immediately. Within 24hrs everything is where it should be. 

This can cause you to follow through, whenever you pass gas. (No giggling at the back) It's not huge amounts and is largely liquid. You remain in control of your bowel movements entirely. Just small amounts of anal fluid and fecal matter as you pass gas. Remember that gas comes out with quite a force whereas a bowel movements are slow and steady. REALLY you won't shit yourself!

If you know you're going to be out for hours, taking a spare pair with you is a good idea.

Something that makes no logical sense to me, if you continue to have anal each night the sphincter stops doing this. You would think it would get looser or stay loose. It doesn't. Unless you have an unusually long session that is.
_______________________________________________

Anal Long Term 
Without googling medical sites and with no medical background I stand behind what I say, there are no dangers in long-term anal sex for the vast majority of us.

I imagine if you were able to find a few men as thick as marrows and decided to gang bang them all one night, you could find yourself with permanent physical damage. 

But for those of us enjoying sex for what it is, soaking up all the moments without the use of backup dancers, you will be perfectly fine and perfectly tight for as long as you choose to do it. Which will very likely be the rest of your sexually active days. (:
________________________________________________


As always I welcome your questions and suggestions. I always leave the 'anonymous comments' option open. You can also email me for a private chat synndarella@gmail.com



6 comments:

  1. Wow! Great post. I'm going to be directing some people here.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Great informative post as usual. Another thing to add to my wish list! iago

    ReplyDelete
  3. I love your post thank you Ive been wanting anal for along time

    ReplyDelete