Wednesday, 11 January 2012

How to Deep Throat


How to deep throat  
Getting past the gag reflex without gagging
Myths About deep throat and Full Walk through

***Updated 22nd March 2013***

Deep Throat Myths
  • You have to overcome your gag reflex
  • You can't do it if you have a strong reflex
  • You take a deep breath before you go down
  • You can breath through your nose when its in you throat
All false! I still gag now and then, my reaction to it has eased to deep throating, but I still gag brushing my back teeth. Lots of advice online tells you to take a deep breath before you go down, but, the opposite is true. No matter how wide your throat is, you simply CANNOT breath in OR out with him fully in there and those lungs need to be empty.

Let me show you how to control the gag and deep throat. You are going to be amazed (and relieved) at how easy it actually is with the right information. 


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I'm there it just won't go down! - Start @ I got past the gag!
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How to begin Deep Throat

Your gag reflex is an Auto-response but that doesn't mean it can't be changed. The idea in the beginning is to get your mind to stop panicking. It is this subtle panic that starts the gag process. We have to teach the mind's alarm system, that penis is not a threat. 

Taming the Gag Reflex
The first thing to do to help you tame your reflex is to simply sit his penis in your mouth as far back as is comfortable. Keep your tongue relaxed and hold him there, nice and still. In your own time and as you feel comfortable gradually take it deeper and rest again. What this does is help your mind stop reacting so quickly! Enabling you to associate this feeling with being calm, thus reducing how your body reacts. IT TAKES TIME don't expect to conquer this in one night. The stronger your reflex, the likely longer it will take but you WILL get there. The more often you do it, the quicker it will happen for you.

In the early days of doing this, you may find once you've started the gag off once, it kicks off really easily and even before you get it as far as you usually can. If that's the case, just stop and try again later, remember you are fighting a natural instinct here! Cut yourself some slack and don't force the issue you'll only make it harder for yourself. You want to associate "calm" with  this, so know when to call it a night. For a more in-depth look at over coming the gag reflex Please read Taming a Super Strong Gag Reflex

I Got Past the Gag!
Eventually you will find that you have past the gag because you'll tend to gag as you are pulling him out as opposed to on the way down. Well done! You've made it to the very top of your throat!

You will find yourself hitting what seems like a brick wall around about now.

Watch the video of me doing deep throat below, because something you probably don't know is HOW the throat opens and gives you the space to take him into you fully. Take a look at the area under my chin and see how it completely drops down as it goes into my throat.

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How to get him all the way down

Your throat muscles and tissues are flexible and very, very firm. There is also a small flap that closes off your airway. It happens naturally when we swallow. But when you deep throat, you push rather than swallow. There's definitely some resistance, but it will give, and it won't hurt.


Neck angle  
When you have learnt to deep throat and do it lot, you'll find you can take him easily in any angle. But to begin with OR if you haven't done it for a while, the part under your chin that needs to drop down, is really tight. It needs to be popped open to get it started. 

Put your fingers under your chin where you can see my chin drops. Look directly up pointing your face to the ceiling, and feel how tight those muscles become. With your head back to normal sitting position, push it forwards, keeping your shoulders still. Feel those muscles are not as tight in this position? Your neck is straight enough to take an erect penis.

Kneeling in front of him, a step back from your normal kneeling position and lurching your neck forwards in to him, is easier for opening your throat than laying with your head off the bed.

Breathing and Deep throat
You can still breathe with the tip of him throat, but once the throat drops (see video above), you cannot breathe in or out. It's very important that you breathe OUT before you go down. An endoscopy Doctor explained to me that part of the Gag reflex is the LUNGS expelling air in a rapid way. Stopping the stomach contents going into you lungs. During deep throat this happens a lot. In fact this happens far more frequently than gagging from the stomach and throat. 

Air-gagging like this isn't something you can overcome with your mind. The only way to prevent it, is keeping those lungs as empty as possible. It takes a few tries to get used to not breathing on empty lungs as well. It feels a bit odd to me still when I haven't done it in a while, and I've been able to do this for years now.

Essentially what you end up doing is drawing air IN through the sides of your mouth as you come up, and forcefully breathing out through your nose as you go down. 


Your Tongue
Try to keep your tongue flat. The tongue has a tendency to want to curl up at the back of your throat, its all part of being nervous. But this will really make you gag. In the beginning I used to poke my tongue right out of my mouth.  

With your tongue pushed forwards, try to keep it flat. The underside will tend to arch. You'll need it loose and flat to let it easily drift in to your throat. Just think of it as everything dropping out and forwards. With no tension, if you can help it.

Widening your mouth
It is hard to tell in this video but I widen my mouth just before he reaches the top of my throat. Similar to yawning, or if you imagine shouting Arggggh! as loud as you possibly can. You mouth widens to the point of feeling my lips stretch a little as he pops in to the throat.

Try it now. Breath all the way out. Open wide, as if to yawn to the point where you can feel the sides of your mouth and jaw start to stretch. Notice that when you do it, you throat does widen for a second, just before you go in to a proper yawn. Keep doing it until you feel it, you will feel it. (Remember not to draw air in)

In a nutshell

  • Position yourself so your neck is protruding forwards and extended 
  • Breathe all air out through your nose before he reaches the back of your mouth
  •  Keep your tongue  loose, flat and forwards 
  • When you get to the top of your throat, widen like a yawn without breathing in, and push.  
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If you have any questions about learning how to deep throat please check out the FAQ's or ask me a question in the comments section below. For a private chat about learning deep throat you can email me: synndarella@gmail.com

If this Post has helped you learn how to deep throat. Please come back and let other's know. Please spread the word its' NOT impossible, anyone can do it with the right information.
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Frequently asked Questions:


What is the best position to deep throat for the first time?
Many people say, laying down with your head off the bed and him standing over you. I found this was just too tight to begin with for me but it may work for you. I found the 69 position with me on top was the best for me, that was how I first got him down. I also liked kneeling in front of him taking one step back from where I'd normally kneel and pushing my head towards him to get the nice angle you need to take him in.

Should I use lubrication?
I've never found I needed any and never used it for this. But if you feel you have a particularly dry mouth then it is probably a good idea. I suspect the dryness is due to being nervous and most likely you won't always need lube.

What does deep throat feel like?
It is very hard to describe the feeling, it is more of a sensation. You can feel the pressure of it (like pressing on your arm) but I will say it is NOT an unpleasant feeling at all or overwhelming. You won't feel like you are suffocating or struggling, you will be pleasantly surprised how easy it is once you have got him down the first time.

Does doing deep throat hurt?
No not at all for me, not even the very first time it goes down. The part under you chin does LOOK dramatic but there really is no pain, in fact that part of you, you really don't feel much at all. In your throat it is just a feeling of pressure.

Does deep throat give you a sore throat?
A little bit, and only when you first start or if you've not done it in a while. It's not like a sore throat when you are ill though, not as bad as that. It gives you a croaky voice for a day or two but only when you are either new to it or just haven't in a while.

I've followed the advice and still can't get it down?
It will be the angle of your neck. You do need to push a little but not an awful lot. You don't need to be ramming him in there, when the angle is right it will go down surprisingly easily. Just play with the angles of your neck, straighten or poke out your tongue slightly, breathe all the way out and widen your mouth just before the gag area. For a better understand of what is stopping you read the What you need to know section in Taming a Super Strong Gag reflex for Deep throat

I'm scared of being sick while its in my throat!
When you are in the act of deep throat your stomach motions are in slow motion and easy to control. Because the space between you stomach and mouth are air tight with him inside your throat, the stomach cannot propel vomit the way it normally would. It feels like wind. Did you ever have one of those  half-burps that doesn't quite make it to the surface? You sort of push it back down.. its the same feeling as that.

What CAN happen though, is your throat can propel him out with some force if you get a build up of air. As said above, part of the gag reflex. 

It is quite fascinating really how you can calm your mind to deep throat and your stomach isn't reacting at all, but some how the lungs are a mind unto themselves! Really try to concentrate on keep all the air out to prevent this happening.


81 comments:

  1. I keep looking at that video of you and i give you a round of applause everytime! thats impressive lol

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    1. Thanks :)
      I still watch it and think wow :)
      It's mad how it looks from the outside

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    2. In the video his dick looks massive how big is it

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    3. Hello you :)
      Fairly big yeah, he's 7 inches long and he's 7 inches circumference at the thickest point (from about midway to the base)

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  2. How do I ask my girl to deepthroat?

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    1. Well that is the million dollar question!
      Without much to go on all I can say is, if she's really in to head she'll probably love the idea of this. If she's only just getting in to giving head, just approach it gently.

      I've seen many girls on-line feeling overwhelmed by the idea and scared that they can't satisfy their partner without doing this - which is a million miles from the real truth. Girls are sensitive about their performance so try not to make it sound like a demand or expectation Just an idea and remind her how amazing she already is :)

      You have to be aware it can take months. Lots' of encouragement and praise goes a long way.

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  3. Still practicing,cant wait to do this for my man,,, i can get my fingers down no problem but the dildo i practice with is big , even a bit more than him and solid, it doesn't bend at all,, cant get that damn thing in,,,, but not giving up im determined to do this lol...to the guy who asked how to get his gf to do it,,, my BF got me wanting to do it not by telling me i lacked in something but always complimenting me telling me how great i am and how im the best ever, then one day he just mentioned it was his fantasy to feel himself being taken all the way inside,,, and that was enough for me, I WANT to please him and give him his fantasy,,, well same for her ,she will have to want to ALOT lol isnt easy at first...good luck and keep telling her she is amazing :) that helps in bed in more ways than you can imagine... think my man maybe knows that already lol

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    1. You can get covers for dildos I have a silicone one I put three quarters over my solid dildo When I dont do it for a few months this comes in really handy!

      You are welcome to write to me if you think it will help I have some gifs I found recently that I might add to this post at a later date where you can see girls widening their mouths before they go down - I also have one that busts this myth that you need a perfectly straight throat =)

      Thanks for you input to the other user I second everything you say I hope they come back and read it =)

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  4. Will his penis actually be in my trachea or in my esophogus? What if he cums into my windpipe? Has this ever happened to you?

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    1. Yes it does. 9" will come down as far as your collar bone. 7" is roughly where my adams apple would be if I had one. (!)

      The throat is really stretchy once you get in there. You'll have no problem. A bit stiff lower down at first, maybe.

      The trick to getting in there, is getting past the area of your mouth and throat where you swallow.. where that action happens. As you see in the video that area drops downwards and outwards.

      If you put your hand there on yourself, start a yawn but don't do a full one. You can feel it. With a penis it pushing that part out of the way and down it goes.

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    2. Oh.. and when he cums in my throat nothing happens. I don't even taste it. Because its' past my actual swallow area there's nothing to swallow.
      Anything past that 'catch' that drops doesn't need swallowing. Even 5" opens that catch. - I don't know why I'm calling it a catch, but it kind of is.

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  5. Hello Your the bomb and i am a woman. I can't wait to learn how to deep throat. I like to drink so my problem is the gagg reflex.

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    1. Hey thanks :) I have a more detailed gag reflex post that I'm putting up soon. I added your email to the feed list you just need to confirm it and it'll tell you when new posts are up :)

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  6. I've tried deep throating for my man in the past, but my issue is him cuming in my mouth. I can never let him do it. The few times I have, I spit it out and I usually throw up. How do I get past that?

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    1. Yeah I've an ex who's cum was instant vomit material too. There's not too much you can do, but when he cums in your throat that solves the problem really. You won't taste it or need to physically swallow.
      Another thing to try is keeping a lot of saliva flowing, hold your tongue out and tilt your head forward while he comes. Literally drop your saliva and it should slide out really easily without too much taste.

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  7. Hello again,back again to tell you thank you, my man wanted me to say thank you to you to as he cant wait to get home from his trip XD, im the Dec 19th poster :)
    I bought a 12 inch jelly dong,,, huge difference getting it down.Can take about 6 1/2 inches , I put a black hair tie at 8 inches mark,thats how long my man is. So not quite getting there yet,but I have time he is still out of the country on businesS. I showed off some of my practice to him via skype and he filmed it lol I considered sharing that with you.Still gagging at the 6 1/2 mark, its the lungs gag, its forcefully throwing me out,no matter how hard I try I cant get past that spot lol , and I do in fact feel how it gets tighter there but I suspect now that I have this new practice toy I will get there soon. Really its your advise that finally made the difference,I quote you in my head as im doing it lol BTW my names Zee :)

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    1. hh hey, welcome back and thanks! I'm am so pleased to hear this if you could see my face right now I'm all teeth grinning ear to ear lol :) - Eventually the part under your chins that drops becomes looser but you will always get a little bit of air when you're going in and out build up so, you know.. just one of those things :)

      Thanks so much for coming back and letting me know my advice is working. Best news ever :) xx

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  8. Also about his cum,, if its tasting bad or having a bad texture its connected to what he eats and drinks.I had a man who smoked and drank only soda and ate junk,, his cum was think and disgusting.My new man eats healthy, fruits etc. ,, he smokes to but he drinks a lot of water as well,,, his cum is sweet and watery.But one day we drank soda all day,, was 2 days we were just being bad and eating out a lot, lotsa friend food and I noticed that night his cum was thick and not yummy at all,, so if it bothers you a lot but he insists u swallow tell him to make a compromise, he will have to eat n drink clean :) strawberry's n bananas really improve the taste :)
    ~zee

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    1. Oops didn't see this was from you too..
      You're so right! One guy I went with ate fresh fish every day for dinner and I swear to god, although fish is very healthy I have NEVER since met anyone with such potent smelly and tasting cum. He was great, his cum was not :)
      Definitely sweet things make a difference. My recent ex was a heavy smoker and junk food eater (should have tasted pretty bad) but had a very sweet tooth, I could have ate him all day :)
      Thanks again Zee x

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    2. Names Greg, also another high sweet cum is when you eat a lot of pineapple :D my girlfriend loves it when I eat pineapple because whe knows she's in for a treat haha

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  9. Cum related question too! ( I think you may have to do a section on cum) Well any who, I used to be able to swallow my husband's cum like nothing, he was the first guy I actually swallowed, other were accidentally and very bad experiences, but I love my husband alot. Well lately I've been gagging on his cum and haven't been really able to swallow. He really enjoys it because He has mild cerebral palsy and women were always so disgusted by him and never really enjoyed being with him so the never went down on him. He says he loves me more because I'm like his porn star I'll do anything to please him. I'm he'll bent on learning to deep throat but he's HUGE 12 inches and thick. my question is why am I gagging now after I've been swallowing for a year and how the hell am I going to deep throat his huge dick?

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    1. Hey, I took a while to reply because I wanted to make sure I gave you the right information.

      I've experienced my partners cum randomly making me gag. It happens from time to time. This could be something in you, mentally. It may have started with one gag, perhaps a mouthful too much one night. It really doesn't take much for the brain to add another trigger for your gag reflex. It's suppose to happen. It makes no difference to gag taming, you'll still be able to do it.

      However, it can also indicate changes in HIS health, not necessarily for the worst. Look at the reasons you are gagging. Is is the taste that changed? Is he producing more than before? (larger amounts will make you gag) Is it a thicker consistency? Does he take meds, is he building up immunity? Is he markedly happier than he was when you first met him? Even that can change the sperm production.

      If you can identify a change in his sperm, but not match it to anything in his life, then that would be a red flag for me. But remember that even just taking one sugar instead of two in your coffee, or being in a happier place in yourself can make a difference to sperm production.

      I didn't mean to get super sensible on you there but I just wanted to be sure you knew all the possibilities.

      Ok, now that's out of the way... =) The thickest I've had in my throat was 7" circumference at the widest point. Your throat won't be a problem its' incredibly stretchy down there. However you back teeth will only ever be so far apart. For many men deep throat is a pleasure-pain thing. The closer any of us are to orgasm and when we are cumming, mild pain actually intensifies pleasure, its' no longer pain so.. for a thicker guy, timing is everything.

      Hope this helps. If not let me know and we can talk further, you're welcome to email me too. x

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  10. Hey. I love your interaction, questions, answers and input that everyone is providing. Who would have thought that you could have a website dedicated solely to deepthroating? Welocome to America! Anyway, here is my problem. I am a 26 year old male and I have a very large penis. Seriously some people say that their penis is large, 8" maybe 9" but My penis is 13 1/4" looooong! - the quarter inch is the difference! I have only been with five girls and none of them enjoyed having sex with me because it is that big! I have settled on the fact that I will only be able to have oral sex with my partner, until I find a girl that will be able to take me in their vagina without hurting them. Even getting head is frustrating because I am so thick that no one has been able to get more than 5 -6" in their mouths mouth. Is it possible that my penis is just too big? Do you think that someone would be able to deepthroat my penis? If so what and how do you advise that we go about this? (my GF is with me and will read all responses)...Finally, I know that your expertise is with deepthroating, but I assume that someone must have some recommendations as for making vaginal intercourse feasible? Do you think that I will ever be able to have vaginal intercourse, have my entire 13 1/4" cock inside a vagina and it would be mutually pleasureable? (Do certain girls have larger vagina's?). Any and all advise is greatly appreciated! JJ

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  11. Hiya, thanks! I'll answer both of those.
    It's not the length that's the issue with deep throat, its the girth. 5-6 inches deep is a good sign. If you can pass through her back teeth, which is the narrowest part, then yes, you can be deep throated. She might find it easier to practice on something slimmer as well as you. Standard dildo's are typically 5 inches circumference. Where as you are probably closer to 8. For an idea of how stretchy the throat itself is: http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_me6zgdXg851rl3hjao1_r1_400.gif

    With vaginal sex, you sound like you have two issues. Depth and width. From what I've seen on more extreme hook-up sites women can be pretty wide! I've seen marrows, coke bottles - as in the large ones. I mean.. I am probably scarred for life! lol =) I can only imagine that they've had children. Women probably could get looser by baring through the stinging sensation, it has that ability, re childbirth.That's what stops us, it stings.

    Most women are around 5-7 inches deep. It would be unusual to find someone 13 (and a quarter lol) inches deep. When people are too long for me I stiffen my arm and catch their hip or inner thigh when we go right at it. I find reverse positions I can take more. Especially variations of spoons, reverse cowgirl. There's something in that anyway.. holding the hip and putting pressure on it, I've done it for years it heightens your arousal whatever you may be doing at the time.. try it.

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    1. HIYA!!Its zee again,,wanted to come back and thank you,, I can now take my mans full 8 inches in my throat and even more almost 10 ha ,, Because of you I can now deep throat like a porn star!! so many sites i went to and it never worked,, its your advice that finally made the difference,, to any one reading here,, listen to what she says it truly works,, but you have to practice and also,, if you can ,, the jelly dildos or dongs work best ,, very bendy,, helps to practice there before on your man :)

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    2. I'm so Proud of you Zee! Thanks so much for coming back, best testimonial I've ever had =) xxx

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  12. My man is uncut. do i still go about everything the same way? also when he is fully erect the skin doesn't fully slide back. Lol what to do what to do

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    1. Yes I've only done it on uncut men so far.
      A lot of men still have half the head covered by the foreskin when they're erect. Hold the foreskin down off the head with your hand while you're practising so it's just nicer for him in general. It's such a tight fit in the throat it will pull back accordingly the same way it does with sex.

      The difference is rubbing the head over the foreskin is less sensitive than moving it out the way before you play hands or your mouth. It doesn't make a difference for us.

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  13. So read thru and have been practicing with quit the success...but my problem is the back I can't seem to get my toy past it ...were it drops off is also my gag line so to spea I think my toy is to stiff ...if once I get past the drop will I be able to progress with my gag taming

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    1. Same for all of us, the dreaded brick wall =) It will eventually go. When I first got him down I couldn't believe it how easily it happened! I realized immediately it was the angle of my neck. I was leaning in to him. Try holding him.. or whatever you are practising on, about 3 inches in front of your mouth and lean in to it or him.

      You don't have to keep doing that once you've finally got in there. The whole area loosens up pretty quick. Also tightens up pretty quick when you don't do it for a while.

      The Epiglottis covers the airway when you swallow.. or push something down. I don't have it confirmed yet but I'm pretty sure this is what causes the 'brick wall' at the top of your throat. You can see a gif of it on this page
      http://mineinprivate.blogspot.co.uk/2013/01/taming-super-strong-gag-reflex-for-deep.html

      I'm trying to piece together what is physically happening in the hope that there could be a simple technique to push through every time, especially the first time or when you're out of practice. It's not that easy to get medical professionally to take me seriously.. funny that lol :) But sooner or later I'll know a lot more that will make this easier for all us.

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    2. Oops waffled a bit there! lol
      About the taming, after that point, getting past the brick wall there isn't anything else to tame. Make sure you breathe out so the lungs don't throw him out, I don't think there is anything you can do about that part of the gag reflex it's never changed for me - other than making sure there's no air to be thrown out.

      Best toys to use I've found are silicone, otherwise known as Jelly dongs. You can get them 2inch wide and 1.5 wide. Both will fit. Personally prefer 2inch because it stretches the area a bit more, making deep throat easier in the long run~

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  14. Hey. You are just too cool. I am so so happy to have come across your blogg. It's given me the confidence that I too WILL be able to DT, which is a big dream for me and my man (off course). I just love your style and detailing in your advice.. It so constructive! So now i'm off to practise and will deffinately look into bying a jelly dong first thing in the morning :) Thanx and xxxx's
    - Saxa

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    1. Hiya Saxa,
      I love your enthusiam =) Expect it to take a little while, the more you rush the slower it goes over all. With your enthusiasm I'm sure it won't take too long! Good luck, and keep chilled~ :)

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  15. I think this is one of the most amazing articles written on the subject. I love how open and honest you are about blow jobs, and your personal life in general. I sent a link to my gf and I'm really excited for her to get back into the country 3 months from now, so that we can practice. She is currently in Med school.

    Thanks for the radical honesty, and I would love to see more articles on the subject. You are a natural teacher and seem to be incredibly well informed on the subject matter as well as very experienced.

    All the best,
    Trent

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    1. Hiya Trent

      What a Lovely message to wake up to! Thanks :)
      I don't suppose your gf would be up for messaging me when she gets home would she? There's a couple of questions I have on the subject that she may be able to answer. No bother if not, I'll find someone eventually I know its a bit forward for me to ask!

      Anyway, I'm really pleased you like the article and I sincerely hope it helps you guys, you can always post questions here or email me and I'll do the best I can to help you out :)

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  16. im trying to surprise my fiance with being able to deep throat but i cant buy a jelly dildo with out ruining the surprise bc we have already combined accounts and live together so he would either see on our account i bought one or see it somewhere in the house and i really want this to be a surprise on our wedding night so is there anything else i could use to practice deep throating?

    thanks:), sanna

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    1. Not that I can think of. I really don't like recommending people to use food but in your case I can't see another option. The first phase is being able to reach the back of your mouth without gagging - In fairness a banana with the skin on or cucumber would be suitable for this stage. Just be careful the butt end of banana's is quite scratchy and rough.

      If it was me I would get cash back from the supermarket because it doesn't show as cash back on your statements, then buy one from a local sex shop and just hide it or leave it at an open-minded friends house. But if you can't do that a cucumber or banana will have to do. :)

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  17. I'm in love with your blog!!! I found you while looking for tutorials on how to deep throat and can't wait to read your other posts.

    I've gotten past the gag reflex but have unusually large tonsils that I'm not sure I can get around, but I'm going to practice with your tips for aligning my throat and opening it up wide (and the "breathe out fully" tip - fantastic!). I'll be back to report my results and continue my education :)

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    1. Lol your enthusiasm! I love it :)
      Hopefully given that the area is really stretchy you should be able to push through. Fingers crossed.

      If you put your hand on your throat, hold your mouth open and sort of start a yawn, you'll feel that area poke out and back. That's the very area that drops down and when it does your throat is fully open.

      Best of luck, here if you need me :)

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  18. My man is like a 9 to a 10 can you still deep throat that big of a dick?

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    1. Yes. It's not the length that's the issue it's the thickness. If you think about sword swallowers for a moment their swords are 15+ inches long.

      9 inches comes down to my collar bone and would do for you, there isn't much difference in adult females neck heights.

      The throat itself is incredibly stretchy. The main problem area is your back teeth. They cannot open as wide as the front. If you can fit him through your teeth, then yes he'll go in to your throat.

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  19. My favourite sex blogger... Saxa again.. Can't thank you enough... I am now taking my man in in full lenght and loving it too.. And i'm so surprised at how easily and quick it happened. I was expecting months or weeks of practising at least, but managed the first time around, which would never have happened if I hadn't come across your fantastic advice.. So thank you thank you... In my experience, I found it easiest to get him past 'the brick wall' with him standing and myself kneeling in front of him.. Gave me really good access to find the right angle, and plenty of space to 'Press my nose' into his lower stomach.. I was surprised though, at how much pressure is needed the first time to push through that wall - just a thought for some of those still struggeling at that stage? My man was experienced with DT, and had prepared me that he was going to push some and that helped a lot.. I'm not sure I would have pushed enough on my own, because it feels quite unnatural to me.. But only the first time - after that it's just a slight push needed and quite quickly learned. Also your breathing advice was stellar.. Became obvious fast, that much of the control lies in that.. I kept saying to myself - 'exhale... Exhale...' ;) So again.. Thank you so much.. You have excellent teaching skills and I won't forget you! Lots of kisses xxx Saxa (and her man)

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    1. This is just the best news! I'm so pleased to hear it happened so easily for you. This is my dream comment! This is why I started the blog in the first place. With the right advice truly anyone can do it. :)

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  20. ..and you are deffinately the one to give such advise.. My man said he'd never seen anyone 'get the point' so fast - but as I mentioned before, you're extremely easy to follow and highly enthusiastic which is so inspiring.. When he mentioned that he'd love for me to be able to DT, I got close to scared.. Not because it didn't appeal to me, but simply because I thought it way out of my league.. Wish I could pay you back for proving me wrong ;) now I feel like a sex godess with such appetite to expand my sexlife even much further ;)

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    1. Just coming back here and telling how well it went is all the thanks I need :)

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  21. i've gotten my gag reflex basically under control, but I keep hitting the "wall" in the back of my throat. I tried dropping my throat by using a yawn, and I think I know what you're talking about, and I tried doing it, but still no success.

    In fact, it hurts when I push back there... I dont have a dildo, but I've been using a rubber vibrator.. it isn't very big but it is hard rubber (lelo gigi) and I dont know if that's an issue... Should it be hurting? Does that mean I'm doing something wrong? Slash do you have any other suggestions or how to get past the wall? I'm getting impatient:(

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    1. It shouldn't hurt no, not until it goes in to your throat and then its not that bad, it just gives you a croaky voice and tickly, scatchy throat feeling.

      Hard dildos I've never found any use, you need something with a bit of give. Same for some of my readers too. This the advice I gave to Zee who had the exact same issue as you (minus the pain)

      Get either a jelly dildo or a jelly hood to go on your Lelo. Or you could try a warm cucumber. (I've seen this not done it myself) They bend slightly but don't disintegrate like bananas.

      Hold the object of choice about 2-3 inches in front of your mouth now instead of bringing it to you, keep your shoulder where they are and lunge your head forwards on to it.

      If you look what Saxa above you says, she found (as I did) kneeling in front of her man meant she could easily find the right angle. For me whenever I do this position I take a step back from where I'd normally kneel and lean in to them. It pulls your neck line in to a straighter position - TILTING you neck upward is not as affective.

      It's ever so stiff to begin with but once that first push is through you're able to be more versitile over time.

      Try this out, and if it still doesn't work come back and we'll go through it some more. One way or another we'll have you deep-throating. You've done so well to get past the gag reflex. Just this little bit now. You can do it.. it will happen :)

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    2. Are you sure it isn't your tonsils in the way? I can deep throat (but struggle with the gagging, hoping some of the things I have read here help) most men. I however cannot deep throat my boyfriend, his girth is bigger than anyone I have been with and I have large tonsils and we have tried and tried and he cannot get pass them, there isn't that much room. He wants me to get them taken out, but at my age I just don't want too. lol I should never have told him my doctor has offered to take them out because they are so large.

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    3. I am very sure yes! The tonsils are soft tissue and the just get pushed out the way. They are not solid.

      If you read the text in Taming a super strong gag reflex you'll see a part that my doctor friend wrote fully explaining exactly what goes on physically, what the brick wall really is.

      I will ask my doctor friend again today to double check for you but I already know what he's going to say. I'll get back to you asap.

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    4. Thanks, but with my boyfriend, I know it is the tonsils as they are large(they almost touch) while they can be pushed in, not that far. He is the only one I haven't been able to get pass them.

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  22. Hey there! My girlfriend has been trying to deepthroat for a while and she just csant get it. She has tried everything and just can't do it. She would like to show you and get your advise and tell her what's she doing wrong. Could you email us? Hope to hear back. Thanks.
    -Dylan & Morgan

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    1. Yes no problem. Write to me synndarella@gmail.com and talk me through what's happening so far..

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  23. Not sure if I ever commented on the fact that I really like some of your idea's. Can't wait to try them out on someone besides my boyfriend! lol

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    1. Thanks! =)
      Yeah he got back to me of course he says without seeing in person its hard to say! They shouldnt be hard though, he did say that, and also enlarged like that can be a sign of underlying health problem, Its probably not because your doc has seen them but just so I can sleep at night I thought Id let you know! =)

      I suppose on the plus side a good sized girth is always a treat for us! lol =)

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  24. Do you ever have a problem with him scraping your teeth in the back? If so, how do you avoid this? GREAT DETAILED DIRECTIONS!!!!

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    1. Yes! That's what happened with the first. His was thicker from the middle to the base, that part that of him would slide against my back teeth when he'd go in to my throat.

      I had to keep my mouth as wide as I could the whole time, and keep the foreskin pulled back (if he has one) Silicone lubes are really silky and smooth they do help a little. In the end I found that waiting for him to be really aroused (pulses of pleasure) or about climax before I put him down.

      The reason this works better, (I've been meaning to write about this in a whole separate post!) - every part of your skin changes in the way it reacts to pain when you are aroused.

      For example, have you ever seen someone with deep claw marks down there back from rampant sex? They always say they had no idea it was happening right? This is because pain becomes pleasure at HIGH levels of arousal. Another example: You've heard of BDSM right? Spanking isn't straight repeated spanks. You tease first, then spank, the spank sends rushes of strong pleasure through the body but it also shocks the body, reducing the arousal level. If you ever watch BDSM you will see, its spank, tease, spank, tease. They are manipulating a natural phenomena.

      There's always going to be a limit to it though. That gap between our back teeth is tiny compared to the front. It may be you can only get him through close to or when he climaxes. Just remember it's about 7 beats for a guy and you need to get him out before the climax finishes or he will literally scream! :)

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  25. Goin to practice right now!!! Will be back soon:) Jo

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  26. Going slightly off-topic (set navicom to 'weird')...

    I know a girl who has very narrow size 3 (US) feet, about 7-8 inches in circumference at the instep... Do you think it might be possible to actually deepthroat her whole foot? My jaw is just wide enough at the back for the instep to pass through, but this would be a bit of a stretch for my throat, laterally. I'm a tall guy with a big neck, so maybe it could be done with practice? I like the idea of having my lips up around her ankle (!).

    This is a serious question, really! Her nails would need to be filed right down to make it safe, of course. I've used castor bean oil (also a muscle relaxant) as a lubricant and managed to 'swallow' both her feet at once - all ten toes at the back of my throat, but I always assumed that actually deepthroating a foot was physically impossible... After reading your blog, I'm not so sure!

    Great advice and writing style, btw.

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    1. Well, you made me laugh a lot reading this. From what I can tell from filming myself and watching it back, the throat can stretch far wider than the space in our mouths, so in theory yes.

      But I have to warn you.
      I recently had someone contact me who had learnt from this post. Her and her partner were using very large toys and being very rough with them. She kept feeling a stinging sensation in her throat, and after a trip to the emergency room she discovered she'd torn her throat muscles. Actually torn them!

      She was told to eat liquid food for a week and it would heal itself. I can only assume it healed fine because I didn't hear back from her again.

      I don't know if it was because of the size of the toys, but I'm guessing it was more likely the force they were using them with. Stretching any muscles causes tiny tears (same as working out) those then fill with new muscle fibres and elasticity and then they are tauter but also have more give. So, if it's done carefully over time instead of trying to ram it in over one night I can't see why not.

      About the area where the adams apple is, its tight for girls too. Most mail I get is about that area and I tell them all the same thing, just keep leaning on it and it will loosen up over a few days. They all come back and tell me its worked.

      So yeah.. long and short, it will stretch but heed the warning of the girl who went to the emergency room! :)

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  27. Yeah, I imagine it would take a little while to build up to *that*... but the human body is very adaptable; especially over time (just look at people with huge ear tunnels or that African tribe with beer coasters in their bottom lip. The front metatarsals in the foot can be squeezed together, making it narrower at the instep, so maybe it would deform slightly under pressure. The micro-tears in the (as you say, very elastic) muscle tissue are consistent with what I've read elsewhere. I'll try and avoid that, but it's not too serious - like a rupture is - so I remain undeterred.

    I'm excited by the idea that it may actually be possible... Perhaps if I had a model of her foot reproduced in soft latex/silicone, I could practice with that first. The amount of dedicated practice that would be required, though... I would need to become a deepthroat pro, just to qualify for this advanced training module. Definitely not something that could be done on a whim, as per your wise counsel. OTOH, I'm pretty sure that it would be a World's First, as far as the Internet is concerned (pics or it didn't happen!). Well, I'm not too bothered about obtaining that accolade - it is something I would like to experience, that's all.

    Hey, I didn't realise that this was an British blog - I'm in England, too, funnily enough (I kind of assumed that this was an American blog...) - so just to clarify, she has UK size 1 feet. The Guardian website journalist Lucy Mangan has size 0 (child size 13), but they're probably not as narrow and that is the key here.

    Toying with the prospect of attempting this, if I measured her instep exactly, and then begun practicing with increasingly large dildos until I was able to deethroat one of the same circumference, would that suffice as preparation, do you think? Anatomically, the pertinent question then becomes: does the the throat stretch more easily side-to-side or back-to-front... I seem to recall that there was some guy on Britain's Got Talent a few years ago called 'The Regurgitator' who could swallow a lightbulb, but as with a penis or dildo, all three are round in cross-sectional area. Maybe wide and shallow is better, given the size of my adam's apple. I understand that the throat is flexible by design, but it's getting something that wide past the entrance that still concerns me slightly, but that's probably just fear based on ignorance of the throat's anatomy (off to wiki epiglottis, etcetera).

    If I do somehow manage this, I'll get her to take a picture (although I suspect only a video would convince disbelieving sceptics, who'd probably contend that we was a partial amputee).

    I like your cautious optimism - thanks for the encouragement!

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    1. A latex/silicone mould sounds like a good idea to me. Have you seen those clone-a-willy kits? I wonder if those would be any good.

      The shape of the foot, being wide not circular might not make that much difference. Because it all stretches anyway, if werfe to mould her foot in to a circle it's probably not that much bigger than the giant dildo's people use. (don't quote me on that tho!)

      There's two parts that get real tight. The top of the throat (because you are forcing the epiglottis to cover the airway, whereas swallowing makes it occur naturally.

      Also a little bone with strong muscles attached just above the adams apple called the hyoid. The space in your neck is slightly thinner at this area too, where the spine is thicker from that point on. So as you are practicing it feels like you've reached you limit, but it's just very tight muscle and it will give.

      I'm very interested to see how you get on.
      Just try to remember you cannot feel pain in the way we can via our skin, you'll only know you are doing damage after its occured. Any stinging you may feel is highly likely to be a tear in the muscles, so slow and steady, and hold it in place as long as you can will give you the flexibility.. eventually! It's just days that's all, so be patience with yourself, I'm pretty sure this is doable.

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  28. Hellow I need help with my husband he is 8 1/2 inches uncircumsized and has a curved penis not to mention I have a liitle mouth. what would be the best position to be in for a curved penis! please help me

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    1. When he's standing if it curves downwards, the kneeling in front of him will be easier. If it curves the other way, have him lay down, go top and tail/69 and hold him upright or if it's really, really curved, even hold it as far forward as he can handle. Does that make sense? I hope so! x

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  29. Thank you I will be trying this tonight. I love this blog I stumbled on it searching how to give a blow job! This is the best advice seen yet and the video helps with visual I will definitely report back

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  30. Thanks for the tip about the latex mould kits. There's some interesting stuff for sale out there...

    I have one last question for you, regarding the best technique to attempt this with - in your experience, how important is it that whatever it is you are deepthroating is able to (at least partially) drop down in between the bottom set of teeth, where the tongue normal resides, before entering the throat? I might just be able to squeeze her foot through the space in between my jaw (above the bottom set of teeth), but what angle will I need my head at in order to line up the entrance to the throat if I do it that way - sword swallower stance? That's going to tighten the front of the throat as well, if I understand correctly. It would be amazing to just slide it straight down, although if that isn't possible, there may be another way.

    I can easily put her foot 'sideways' in my mouth with the ball of her foot in between my bottom set of teeth (little toe in the roof of my mouth) - beyond that point, though, the degree to which the trachea, etc would need to be displaced forwards in order to make room would be quite extreme. Anyway, I think that's enough theoretical exploration of the possibility - time to give it a go!

    I really appreciate you enthusiasm here - this blog is inspiring a lot a people, I'm sure!

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    1. The narrowest part that doesn't have flexibility, unless you dislodge your jaw is your back teeth. If you can fit through there, everything else is stretch-able.

      With the dropping down, don't focus on that too much. It just happens.

      The dropping in itself doesn't widen your jaw line, the lines of your teeth. That gap size will be the same.

      When it does move, the object will slide down your throat, as effortlessly as it slid in to your mouth. Once you reach the entrance to the throat for the first few tries, it's like you hit a brick wall. It's really your epiglottis. It just needs a little push and bit of tweaking to the angle of your neck.

      Positions wise, definitely not sword swallower stance for the first breaking through, if you mean with your head straight up. That whole area is much tighter at that angle. It's better to straighten your neck by forward extension rather than upward extension, at least until it's quite stretched out and has the flexibility.

      And thanks, I'm glad it's helping you.

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  31. I had a good night last night I got it in my mouth further than I have ever I used your technique of take it in slow stop and when ready take more in that worked like a charm! I did let myself get frustrated cause I could not even get it to the brick wall. I kept questioning myself because I have such a small month and I'm dealing with 8 1/2 inches uncut and the damn thickness help help I no its not going to happen overnight but with a little mouth and the size is it possible to DT oh and the curve to it?????

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    1. It's so hard for me to accurately judge without seeing you both.
      But I can tell you, as long as you can fit him, and the curve between the gap of your back teeth, he'll go down your throat. The narrowest part is your teeth. Apart from the the line-up of your teeth and the hard palette in the roof of your mouth, everything else is stretchable.

      I think, if his curve is giving a sharp angle to the tip, practicing breaking your throat in for the first time might be easier on a dildo.
      The thing with deep throating is that once is goes through, it's so much looser and everything clicks in place. From then on you can feel how to adjust yourself from any angle.

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  32. I will go out asap and get a jellie one! My husband was really taken by how much further I had been able to go so your advice is amazing I even got a big smile and good job afterwards lol thank you

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  33. OK. I bought me one of those doc Johnson crystal jellie dildos so I will be practicing its kinda of exciting and jittery feeling at the same time I never thought I could be so excited over a blow job. I will conquer this DT lol. You are amazing for sharing

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    1. Yeah I found it a bit nerve racking at first too, especially not knowing what it would feel like once it goes in. But when it does, its' a bit like, oh, is that it? :) It's all so simple after that first one down. Best of luck with the new jellie! x

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  34. I'd like to know what guys actually feel when you deep throat. My SO seems to enjoy when I can take him to the top of my throat. How much better is deep throating for a guy? I've asked him but he's never experienced it and says he's "fine without it." We've been married for 10 years and I like to keep him interested in the bedroom...or wherever.

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    1. The feedback I get is that's its' very hot, very soft and very tight. The ideal environment for male pleasure. They tell me it's tighter than anal sex.

      Clearly a lot of thrill is visual and so far the guys say it is as good as they imagined it would be. I think for a lot of them its' the excitement of actually doing it because after a time the novelty wears off and it's not that high up on the bedroom agenda~ :)

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  35. Thanks for your help. Here is my video on Adult Friend Finder. How can I improve?

    http://adultfriendfinder.com/show/347777164_70111-38554482774/view.html?action=playback&stream_id=347777164_70111

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    1. Hiya, My gold membership had run out when you asked me about this. I've got it back but your video and profile seem to have gone. You can mail it to me synndarella@gmail.com

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  36. I just want to say thanks a million for your step by step process on how to deepthroat. My husband loves it and so do I cause I get to please him. We have been married for 9 years and never experience nothing like this. Your guide was very helpful. I get to deep throat without gagging. I practiced first with a dildo and with deep throat spray. Then I practiced with him. It goes in like nothing and I dont need the spray anymore. All thanks to your guide. Keep up the good work.

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  37. Thank you so much for the article. Just got it with my dildo and it was a lot easier than i thought.

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  38. Wow.Thank you so much. Your blog is the best article by far. I really wanted to learn how to deep throat, not because I want to be expert or something but I think it's really good to surprise my man sometimes.

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  39. Wow that was incredibly sexy how you took him down.. my wife is trying and we are getting close

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